A year ago today my life changed forever. My beloved mother passed away and life hasn’t been the same since. My mother was the most loving, kind, amazing individual anyone ever met. She loved everyone. When she passed, a light went out in this world.
Ironically, today is World Adoption Day.How appropriate! My older brother and I are both adopted. (We have a baby brother who isn’t, but that is a long story for a future post, maybe.)
My parents were unable to have children of for a long, long time. In the 50’s it couldn’t possibly be the male’s problem, so women would undergo surgery to try and figure out why they couldn’t conceive. It had to be her fault.
My blessed mother had fifteen (15) exploratory surgeries between 1950 and 1957 trying to figure out why she wasn’t conceiving. My parents had been married since 1946 and this was incredibly frustrating for both of them. She was diagnosed with severe case of endometriosis in one of her early surgeries and the medical community rectified that problem, probably extending her life. (Thank you!)
It has been interesting growing up as an adopted child. My parents never hid the information and actually went out of their way to make sure I knew it. There are a lot of mixed emotions as an adoptee. You can’t help but wonder why didn’t my biological parents want me? Was I rejected at birth?
Roe v Wade changed the thought process. Never again did I have a negative thought about being giving up for adoption. I began thinking about what a blessing it was that I ever took a breath. Thanks Bio-mom whomever you may be and wherever you are.
My parents are a shining example of what adoption could/should be, so I find it interesting that World Adoption Day is today.
We have entered into day 2 of our windows installation. Makes sense. We are replacing all of them – a total of 31. As life would have it, we are experiencing the coldest temperatures we have seen in 6 months. Kind of sad that we were using the air conditioner a week ago, now it is freezing and we are pulling out the huge windows in my house. My father’s voice is ringing in my head, “Close that pneumonia hole!”
Man do I miss my dad! He was always my go to when I had to do something. We were close – even closer in the last decade. There wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t talk to him and/or my mother. Time that I used to resent taking every day, but now I am so grateful that I did it.
I need him. His wisdom, his concern, his observations. The good. The bad. The ugly. I need it.
Here I am knee-deep in the biggest home improvement project I have ever experienced and I am winging it without much counsel. Scary! Sure am hoping it turns out well, but it will take time to find out if I did the right things right.
Let’s get real, I suck at this remembering to blog thing!
Truth is that I have been so busy living my life I haven’t thought about blogging. Sad! Sad as so many things have happened in the last twelve months that I have been completely overwhelmed, but wish I had blogged my experiences so I wouldn’t have a wad of random notes and one day would be able to share with those around me who have been going through this life too.
Today is a day of reflection and remembrance for not just me, but for every Tom Petty fan in the world. It was a year ago today his brilliance was stopped.
I will never forget where we were when I found out this amazing songwriter had left this world. We were in Albuquerque, NM, getting ready to return to the great Pacific Northwest, which is where we lived then. We had been in the boonies for a few days with minimal connection. (Not really a problem for me, most of the time.)
We checked into our hotel room for the night after having run around Albuquerque taking care of our ‘chores’. I was exhausted. I was ready to take a rest break before we headed out for a ‘family’ dinner. on in the room. I am big on knowing what is happening around me when I travel, so I turned on the TV and surfed around the channels until I found a local news channel.
The usual things had happened in the world. There was a big push to remind locals about the continuing Balloon Festival and to watch out for traffic. I was barely paying attention. Then the talking heads on the local TV changed their tone and read a prepared statement communicating Tom Petty had been declared dead!
BAM! I was overtaken by shock and disbelief! No way! We just saw him in Seattle a couple of months ago! This isn’t possible! He is too young! It broke my heart! How was I to know this would be a foreboding of things to come into my life in the next twelve months?
As the world grieved Tom Petty, his greatness has stayed active in the media, which is saying something in this day and age of the fifteen minute news cycle. It has helped me to read a lot of what has been written and listen to the music that has been a prominent part of my adult life. My order of ‘Tom Petty An American Treasure’ was delivered last night! I am so grateful to his family and friends for putting this collection together and I am spending my day listening to this true American Treasure! RIP Tom!
So funny how I skim over the really BIG data points.
A lot has happened since I took the time to last update.
I went to see my surgeon. (reminder, this is a big deal because he isn’t here!)
We bought a house.
We bought appliances.
We agreed on paint. (this too is a big deal!)
What’s surprising me is how difficult it is to find many of the replacements for things I need. It is all about the definitions. When I say ‘manicure’ I mean manicure. The whole NPS thing is alive and well.
As I am still trying to finance the next phase, I wonder if there is an opportunity here? Hmmmm..
Last year, I wrote some rather profound posts. Maybe only profound to me, but profound just the same.
Looking back, I wrote one that essentially was a job description of the things I wanted to do. From early last year
As the year progressed, I found the best job I have ever had. This was the most fun and working with the best team! I actually got to do many/most of the things I had listed in the above referenced post.
Now, I am back on the search. The whole relocating to another state thing has necessitated this change. Job searching is hard, and even harder when you are older. The challenge is to find a way to communicate my skills, history, capabilities to folks who weren’t even born when I started my career. Wish me luck!!
Doing very, traditional year-end analysis – I did not meet or exceed my primary resolution for 2017; however, I did improve how often I posted, but I really wanted to post even more often.
Reviewing what I did post, along with my personal calendar, it is easy to identify when life got in the way of me posting. A lot of life-changing events happened last year and all of my resources were consumed with living.
The bright side of living means I have plenty of thoughts about content that I can include in 2018!
Here’s to doing better this year! Stay tuned.
Oh my goodness this is tougher than I thought it would be.
I spent the last 3 plus months of my life doing my dream job, but I am having difficulty articulating the value add. That makes updating the old resume more challenging.
The end of July I was at wits’ end trying to find something before my unemployment benefits ran out.
Low and behold, I was asked to interview for a job at a company I knew nothing about, except that they had gotten a lot of my money over the years.
It was the hottest day of the year!
I had to drive over 50 miles round trip!
I really had to convince myself to go on this adventure!
Man! I am so glad that I did!
In the end, I decided to go to the interview, if for no other reason than to answer the question about whether or not I opted out of a job possibility. I decided it would be a nice stop on my job search journey and it never hurts to tune your interview and interpersonal skills.
I was excited! I feel I went into this interview with the right mindset, so I am hoping to draw on this experience as I embark down the path of total rejection, again.
This was exciting. Here was a small company growing up fast! Who wouldn’t want to be part of that excitement? Lots of changes. Lots of growing pains. Lots of vision. Oh watch out for the fiefdoms! Somehow, that word seems more pertinent here than anywhere else I have ever used it!
They liked me. I liked them. I took the job!
The first ten minutes of my very, first day, I encounter drama between the QA Lead and the Lead ERP Dev.
It’s hard to operate in a vacuum and even worse to be in the eye of a power struggle.
This team knows how to get their stuff done, what they don’t know is what matters and to whom. This is what I spent the next couple of months solving.
When I left we were on the crux of a fully-agreed-upon cadence negotiated with the business stakeholders and mapped to the projected trajectory for continued maturity.
I am gonna miss this place!