Patience! The lesson I am being taught is patience. After years of owning workback schedules and driving results, I have had to lower my expectations to match the rest of the world. Wow! My ‘new normal’ must include patience and acceptance that 90% of the world will miss deadlines and commitments. So sad!
When we bought this house in January, the big item on the inspection report that we chose to tackle this year was storm window replacement.
We bought a 20 year old home that had minimal modifications to the box the builder put up at build time. These storm windows were all builder grade and their effectiveness had dropped significantly with age. We knew they would need to be replaced as soon as possible.
I should have remembered that fact when we were negotiating because rather than ‘being nice’ and going up in my original offer, I would have lowered it. I remember being pissed when the twenty-something real estate girl tried to strong arm me with, ‘Well, if you don’t take this offer, they will just take the house off the market and re-list it next spring.’ **20-20 Hindsight: I should have let them! I could have SAVED $$$ and/or bought a ‘better’ house for less money!
We have spent a lot of money on this house in less than a year. I recognize that a couple of the knee-jerk changes we made are sunk costs as when I get around to doing what I really want to do to this house those changes will go away, but the windows were going to be the first foundational change to the house.
I am a pretty good task estimator and scheduler, but I evidently have no concept of lead and lag times for custom windows and/or window coverings. Guess it is because I have never done this before. I thought I was starting early when I ordered my custom replacement windows in JUNE. We just signed-off on window installation acceptance November 21st.
It is holiday time and we are actively decorating our house. The biggest argument we have had in a long, long time was about tree placement. We MUST leave room for the shutter installation that is promised mid-December. So instead of putting the tree up where my husband really wanted to, our tree is hanging out in the middle of the room. Sigh!!!
Never in my wildest imagination did I consider the little project I started while planning my grandson’s birthday party would be ongoing while planning my granddaughter’s birthday party. This is ridiculous!
I have referenced in previous posts how much lyrics, bands, music influences my mind’s ticking. I resisted titling this post ‘What a Long Strange Trip It’s Been’ as that one song title is so overused it has become cliche, but that is exactly what is going through my head.
Fear not! I have my favorite blue tooth headphones on and am dialing up some alternative sounds. Stay tuned, I will update upon finalizing my decision. I think it is safe to say my taste is eclectic!
Today’s observation into the ‘strange trip’ part: OMG it is tough to replace windows and/or consider remodeling anything!
At some deep, limbic level I knew. I knew that doing anything to any house could be expensive and annoying. I used to be really, really handy, but now I am old, so I try not to do too much myself. I think my goal in life has always been somewhat, ‘make enough money to be able to pay the experts’. But damn! I didn’t realize how expensive(and annoying)it was to call the experts for every, teeny, tiny thing!
And scheduling! This is worse than trying to fit a ‘1:1’ into a VP’s calendar when that VP has just sworn he is seeing NO ONE! I declare, handymen specialists are the worst!
I need estimates so I can finally finish the blasted ‘Window Replacement’ project! It is not my fault the workers dropped things when they were doing all of the installs. They did a great job doing what they do, but they really weren’t the safest, neatest, most efficient craftspersons I have ever met. So far, I have been pleased with the produce delivered and the vendor is working with me to make me ‘whole’.
The monkey is on my back! I have been working for a whole week trying to schedule appointments for estimates with local specialists. So far only 1 of the 4 I scheduled has shown up for the agreed-upon appointment. I guess the rest of these folks want to remain losers and are absolutely not interested in my business. So sad. I am so frustrated that I am calling the contractor who installed the windows to see if we can negotiate another approach to closing this transaction.
Music I settled on? Right now, I am listening to OneRepublic ‘Native’ AND changed from my headphones to my little blue tooth speaker on the counter! I found a couple of tasks to complete so next time my options are greater, but that is a post for another day!
A year ago today my life changed forever. My beloved mother passed away and life hasn’t been the same since. My mother was the most loving, kind, amazing individual anyone ever met. She loved everyone. When she passed, a light went out in this world.
Ironically, today is World Adoption Day.How appropriate! My older brother and I are both adopted. (We have a baby brother who isn’t, but that is a long story for a future post, maybe.)
My parents were unable to have children of for a long, long time. In the 50’s it couldn’t possibly be the male’s problem, so women would undergo surgery to try and figure out why they couldn’t conceive. It had to be her fault.
My blessed mother had fifteen (15) exploratory surgeries between 1950 and 1957 trying to figure out why she wasn’t conceiving. My parents had been married since 1946 and this was incredibly frustrating for both of them. She was diagnosed with severe case of endometriosis in one of her early surgeries and the medical community rectified that problem, probably extending her life. (Thank you!)
It has been interesting growing up as an adopted child. My parents never hid the information and actually went out of their way to make sure I knew it. There are a lot of mixed emotions as an adoptee. You can’t help but wonder why didn’t my biological parents want me? Was I rejected at birth?
Roe v Wade changed the thought process. Never again did I have a negative thought about being giving up for adoption. I began thinking about what a blessing it was that I ever took a breath. Thanks Bio-mom whomever you may be and wherever you are.
My parents are a shining example of what adoption could/should be, so I find it interesting that World Adoption Day is today.